Q – I want to buy a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps that cost $1,095.00. But I have a feeling I’ll regret doing it. The thing is, I really can’t afford them. I’d have to buy them on my credit card and then it will take me a long time to pay for them. And I probably won’t even end up wearing them all that much since I don’t really wear high heels a whole lot. But I’m sick of having to be the one who doesn’t get to have nice things. A few years ago I made a goal to buy my first pair of Louboutins by my 30th birthday. My 30th birthday is around the corner. Should I just go ahead and buy the CL pumps on credit?
Re: I want to buy a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps but…
A – If meeting your goal to buy your first pair of Louboutins by your 30th birthday will give you lasting pleasure and add meaning and value to your life’s story; then go ahead and buy them. You only have one life to live.
But the fact that you’re having misgivings seems to indicate that a big enough part of you doesn’t really think this would be the smartest choice.
If you think you’ll regret buying the shoes maybe you should trust your feeling. You say you don’t really wear high heels a whole lot and you doubt you’ll end up wearing your Louboutin pumps all that much. Why put your credit at risk over something you’re not all that likely to use.
Will it give you pleasure just to be able to look at the Louboutins sitting in your closet?
If you think just having the Louboutins and being able to see them in your closet will give you pleasure each day, then by all means get them. Why not? But before you do, take some time to analyze that notion that just knowing you have the shoes will give you pleasure. What kind of pleasure are we talking about here? Are you comfortable with the idea that you rely on material possessions to validate your sense of worth? Should a pair of shoes make you feel whatever it is that seeing the Louboutins in your closet might make you feel? These are just questions we’re suggesting you ask yourself. We’re making no judgements here.
We totally understand being sick of having to be the one who doesn’t get to have nice things. But again, we’re talking about things in terms of things having power to make us feel good about ourselves if we have them or like we’re not good enough and not worthy if we don’t have them.
If you want a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps and you can afford them then you should not hesitate to get them. You deserve to have what your heart desires. But…
If you have to go into debt to get yourself a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps, maybe you should reconsider your decision to buy them. Try to save up to get a pair instead.
